This is a fantastic article for bride posted from our friends at CitizensVoice.com. Are you up to speed on these wedding planning terms for the bride-to-be? If not, you will be soon:
There’s one thing all the wedding movies in the world got right, and that’s the vocabulary. Brides and grooms, be prepared, your lexicon of common words and phrases will grow extensively during the length of the wedding process. I know when I started getting into the wedding industry, and even when I started planning my own wedding a few years later, I wished there was a way I could get all the vocabulary out of the way up front, instead of waiting for that awkward moment of miscommunication with a vendor to figure it out. Here’s a list of terms I’ve had brides ask me to define in the last few months. The list is nowhere near complete, but these are words you’re likely to stumble upon early in the planning process.
Boudoir session – A popular trend in engagement gifts or wedding presents from brides has been boudoir photo shoots. These are suggestive and sexy photography sessions that usually culminate in a little black book of photos for your partner. The sessions are only as revealing as you want them to be. Some women choose to wear just lingerie and others opt for their partner’s favorite sports jersey. The creativity is endless.
Canape – A canapé is a small appetizer, usually only big enough for one bite, that’s served during cocktail hours. They’re often served by dressed waiters or standing trays.
Cornelli – Cornelli is a kind of cake piping that mimics lace. It’s patterned with thin lines of icing in swirls or flower-like designs.
Crudités – Seriously, this is where the lingo gets ridiculous. Crudités is just a fancy word for vegetables and dip.
Dais – A dais is a platform that elevates tables. They’re most often used to elevate a head table or a sweetheart table at receptions. They help to make the bridal party or couple visible to more people in the room.
DIY – DIY is an acronym that stands for Do It Yourself. I use the term frequently in this column. It’s not a quick quip or something you say when your partner asks you to make you dinner. It refers to all the crafty little projects that you know full well you could spend a fortune to buy from a company but that you’d rather, well, do it yourself.
Embossing – Embossing is the process of printing on invitations where the print or outer design is raised and textured.
Euro tie – A euro tie is the common tie used with tuxedos today. The other usual option is a bowtie.
FAB Minimum – FAB stands for food and beverage. A food and beverage minimum refers to the minimum of food and beverages you must pay for when contracting a vendor. It’s important to keep an eye on FABs because you don’t want to end up having to spend more than you need too.
Fascinator – A fascinator is a head piece that is usually made of feathers, flowers, and other fabrics. While these days they come in all sizes, traditionally they were meant to be big and gaudy. Most fascinators attach to the hair with a barrette, comb, or alligator clip. The biggest trend right now is to pair a fascinator with a short front veil such as a blusher, birdcage, or Russian veil.
FOB, MOB, BM, FMIL, B2B, GM, DH – Okay if you’ve been engaged or creeping the wedding blogs for more than 10 minutes you probably know the wedding industry loves acronyms. All of these are acronyms for specific people. In order, they are father of the bride, mother of the bride, bridesmaid/best man (you have to use context clues for that one), future mother in law, bride to be, groom, dear husband. The acronyms for people are endless.
Fondant – Bakers out there, excuse the layman’s terms I’m about to use. Fondant is a sugary playdough-like substance that is rolled flat and smooth and used to cover (and decorate) wedding cakes. They have an incredibly beautiful effect when used properly. As for the taste, some people love it, but most people end up peeling the fondant off their slice of cake to get to the yummy buttercream icing underneath.
Jack & Jill – Jack & Jill refers to a co-ed bridal shower. They’re becoming more popular as couples have less strict gender roles and household items given at a bridal shower will be used by both men and women.
Sweetheart table – Sweetheart tables are an alternative to the traditional head table. It’s a table where only the bride and groom sit at the reception. It allows for the bridal party to sit with their friends, family, or significant others who aren’t in the wedding. (Personally, it also lets the bridal party eat without being stared at.)
Trousseau – A trousseau is a collection of bed linens, lingerie, and other cloth material that brides often get at their wedding shower. They can also be placed in a hope chest if the bride has one.
Underlay – Many venues use two table cloths when they are setting their table. The top table cloth (which the plates go on) is called an overlay and is often decorative or of nicer quality. The second table cloth is used to drape to the floor to hide table legs and feet.
Vellum – Vellum is a translucent paper or thin sheet of plastic-like material. It often has the appearance of frosted glass. It can be printed on, used as an overlay for invitations, or used to make candles with printing on them such as memorial candles or unity candles.
Do you have any more to add to the list?
-Jason Fox, managing editor