Marriage Tip #8: The little things that keeps your marriage alive
At the beginning of your marriage it may have seemed easier to keep the flame alive. As time passes, you and your loved one fall into a natural routine and pattern that your life together is based on.
With the arrival of children, parents feel less like a sex bombshell and more like an indentured servant, and responsibilities feel like overwhelming priorities that need to be addressed first and foremost, leaving an exhausted marriage where the couple only seen to have time to talk about money, bills, kids and household chores.
It is so incredibly important to make time for each other as a couple, away from the sink full of dishes, screaming kids and a heap of life’s demands and chores.
Practically, in many a marriage, it doesn’t work to always be able to go away for an entire weekend once a month, so there needs to be things that are done on a daily basis, to remind each other that they are still loved and cherished.
Mornings in most households are chaos, whether you have kids or not, there is a mad rush to get to work, find clothes, eat breakfast and pack everything you need for the day. Couples should take the time to get up a little bit earlier. Even half an hour spent together in the morning over a cup of coffee will provide a good start to the day for both people.
Things like making the bed, clearing up after breakfast, getting the car out of the garage all may seem like mundane chores, but if they are done to help out your partner in the morning, you can help them remove their stress, and it shows that you noticed that they needed an extra helping hand.
The little things like an unexpected bunch of flowers, a text message in the middle of the day thanking your spouse for clearing up after breakfast that morning, telling them what a difference it meant to your day, that kind of thing, has the ability to breed happiness, and in any marriage that is a vital part of keeping the fire burning.
Put some time aside in the evenings, put the kids to bed early, pour your husband or your wife a glass of wine and just enjoy each other’s company as if you were on a date. Pull out her chair, praise his cooking, let her through the door first, pick up the paper for him, say please and thank you every time and never, ever leave or arrive at the house without kissing each other hello or goodbye.
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Small commandments to live by that will keep the bond of marriage strong through the busy and forgetful times. Are you doing enough to keep your marriage on fire?
-Jason Fox, managing editor
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